Courier News http://couriernews.suntimes.com Latest news from Courier News Online en-us webmaster@suntimes.com (Editor) http://couriernews.suntimes.com/csp/cms/sites/STM/assets/img/logos/couriernews.gif Courier News http://couriernews.suntimes.com 84 34 30 Copyright 2014 <![CDATA[ Weekend fans old flames into an affair ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: “Jane,” the daughter of a life-long friend, attended my son’s wedding with her husband. My son and Jane have known each other since childhood, and always flirted and acted as if they had a crush on each other. To make a long story short, after seeing each other during the weekend, my son left his wife of only one month and started a long-distance relationship with Jane. Jane continues to live with her husband. My son and Jane have been open about their relationship with everyone in our families except her father and her husband. Needless to say, … ]]> Tue, 28 Aug 2012 14:10:11 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/14314242-423/weekend-fans-old-flames-into-an-affair.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/14314242-423/weekend-fans-old-flames-into-an-affair.html <![CDATA[ Secretly remarried mom still collecting alimony from dad ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: My parents divorced 20 years ago. The court approved a mutual agreement that Dad would pay monthly alimony until Mom remarried or one of them died. He has never missed a payment. I have recently discovered that Mom secretly married her live-in boyfriend 11 years ago, but has continued receiving the alimony without telling my father. Is she committing a crime for which she could be arrested? And is her husband guilty of any wrongdoing? I am extremely upset over this and want to do something to correct this injustice. It isn’t fair. What can I do? Furious … ]]> Sat, 29 Oct 2011 00:41:09 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/6226074-423/secretly-remarried-mom-still-collecting-alimony-from-dad.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/6226074-423/secretly-remarried-mom-still-collecting-alimony-from-dad.html <![CDATA[ Wedding production begins  with an orchestrated proposal ]]> Lead story image

D ear Abby: Has the marriage proposal become an invited ceremony like the wedding, or am I out of touch? A few months ago friends and family were invited to a beach near Seattle for the proposal. Our grandson and his live-in went for a short seaplane ride. The plane returned, beached and the couple got out. Then, surrounded by the throng on the sand — and videotaped — grandson proposed on bended knee and she, of course, accepted. Because we did not attend, my daughter is still not speaking to us. The young couple will fly to Maui in … ]]> Sat, 29 Oct 2011 00:40:36 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/6225890-423/wedding-production-begins-with-an-orchestrated-proposal.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/6225890-423/wedding-production-begins-with-an-orchestrated-proposal.html <![CDATA[ Readers running hot and cold  on toilet brush in dishwasher ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: The letter from “Turned Off in Texas” (May 18) caught my attention. While I agree that putting a toilet brush in the dishwasher with the dishes was unexpected and off-putting — we don’t ever want to link the toilet with our food — I think your answer showed a little overreaction. Running the dishes in another cycle should take care of any concerns as long as the water is hot. Studies have shown that the inside of the average public toilet bowl is not as bacteria-laden as a public drinking fountain. Our disgust is emotional, not likely fact-based. … ]]> Wed, 27 Jul 2011 10:21:26 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/6225720-423/readers-running-hot-and-cold-on-toilet-brush-in-dishwasher.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/6225720-423/readers-running-hot-and-cold-on-toilet-brush-in-dishwasher.html <![CDATA[ National anthem deserves your hand and heart ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I was criticized recently for placing my right hand over my heart while the U.S. flag was flown and “The Star-Spangled Banner” was being sung. I was told that the hand over the heart is for the Pledge of Allegiance only, when the flag is present. Is that true, and what is the proper procedure? St. Louis Patriot Dear Patriot: No, it is not true. Whoever criticized you was ignorant of the Flag Code, as amended by the 94th Congress and approved July 7, 1976. According to the code, “During the rendition of the national anthem when the … ]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 00:53:12 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5847790-423/national-anthem-deserves-your-hand-and-heart.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5847790-423/national-anthem-deserves-your-hand-and-heart.html <![CDATA[ Was daughter’s closet door opened by college mentor? ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: My daughter recently told us she is attracted to women. I feel she has been unduly influenced by her mentor/professor at her college, as she quoted this woman several times when she “came out.” My daughter has always been quiet and shy. She finds it difficult to make eye contact with anyone. How am I to accept this, especially since I feel her mentor took advantage of the situation? I am finding it difficult to function at all. I love my daughter very much. This just hurts. Mom At A Loss in Oregon Dear Mom at A Loss: … ]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 00:52:58 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5847748-423/was-daughters-closet-door-opened-by-college-mentor.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5847748-423/was-daughters-closet-door-opened-by-college-mentor.html <![CDATA[ Family members run for cover from grandma’s talk marathons ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: No one in my family will tell my grandmother the reason they don’t call her is she talks too much. None of us is retired like she is, and our evenings are chaotic enough without a two-hour conversation with her. Relatives ask me to relay messages on their behalf so they won’t have to call her. She’s always crying and telling me I’m the only one who is “good to her.” I’d feel guilty if I had to tell Grandma the truth — but I, as well as the rest of the family, have had enough of her … ]]> Mon, 01 Aug 2011 16:53:02 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5885886-423/family-members-run-for-cover-from-grandmas-talk-marathons.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5885886-423/family-members-run-for-cover-from-grandmas-talk-marathons.html <![CDATA[ Woman’s helping hand at work  comes across as interference ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: It has recently come to my attention that at work I am considered “bossy.” It came as a shock to me. I’m hurt that my co-workers and department manager think of me this way. I know I come on strong sometimes when it comes to helping customers, but I view it as helping. When I suggest to co-workers that they keep their areas clean and orderly, it is perceived as bossy. I’m just trying to help them not get fired for slacking off. I’m older than some of my co-workers and my manager. I tried for the manager … ]]> Mon, 01 Aug 2011 16:52:13 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5715586-423/womans-helping-hand-at-work-comes-across-as-interference.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5715586-423/womans-helping-hand-at-work-comes-across-as-interference.html <![CDATA[ Church teacher dodging dates should say ‘never on Sunday’ ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I am a 48-year-old single male. I teach an adult Sunday school class. Two women who have joined our group have made it plain they would like to have a romantic relationship with me. I’m not sure how to handle this. I’d like to meet someone special, too, but I’m not certain this is the right way. Please advise. Troubled Teacher in the South Dear Troubled Teacher: Tell the women you have a policy that you do not date your students. To do otherwise would be distracting and disruptive to the class. Once they have “graduated,” there is … ]]> Mon, 01 Aug 2011 16:52:13 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5715504-423/church-teacher-dodging-dates-should-say-never-on-sunday.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5715504-423/church-teacher-dodging-dates-should-say-never-on-sunday.html <![CDATA[ Near-sighted hostess insists glasses are for her eyes only ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I am severely myopic and can’t see without my prescription eyewear. Yet people continually ask me if they can “borrow” my glasses to read the menu. (I work as a hostess.) Abby, my glasses are not reading glasses; they are my eyes — literally. When I explain this, I get snorts, grunts and muttered comments that I am “rude.” My husband says I should let them try on my glasses and cut out the explanation, as they would immediately realize that they can’t see through them. I disagree. I think it is inappropriate to even ask, let alone … ]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 00:51:40 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5715562-423/near-sighted-hostess-insists-glasses-are-for-her-eyes-only.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5715562-423/near-sighted-hostess-insists-glasses-are-for-her-eyes-only.html <![CDATA[ Church teacher dodging dates  should simply say ‘never on Sunday’ ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I am a 48-year-old single male. I teach an adult Sunday school class. Two women who have joined our group have made it plain they would like to have a romantic relationship with me. I’m not sure how to handle this. I’d like to meet someone special, too, but I’m not certain this is the right way. Please advise. Troubled Teacher in the South Dear Troubled Teacher: Tell the women you have a policy that you do not date your students. To do otherwise would be distracting and disruptive to the class. Once they have “graduated,” there is … ]]> Tue, 04 Oct 2011 00:36:41 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5715486-423/church-teacher-dodging-dates-should-simply-say-never-on-sunday.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5715486-423/church-teacher-dodging-dates-should-simply-say-never-on-sunday.html <![CDATA[ Daughter’s clothing choices should be largely her own ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: While I understand “Loose and Baggy in San Francisco’s” (April 23) mother’s wish to get the most out of her daughter’s clothing budget, as one whose career has been studying the social psychology of appearance, I disagree with your response. A girl’s early teen years are crucial to her development of self-image and overall self-esteem. This is a major reason for their obsession with their appearance. Parents who want to assist their daughters through the quagmire of appearance-related issues associated with these years should work with their daughters by being open to their needs, yet not allow them … ]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 00:51:00 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5715477-423/daughters-clothing-choices-should-be-largely-her-own.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5715477-423/daughters-clothing-choices-should-be-largely-her-own.html <![CDATA[ Woman who won’t  keep track of time isn’t worth man’s future ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I have been in a seven-year relationship with “Maddy,” which will probably end soon because she can’t seem to stick to any kind of routine. Maddy is in her mid-30s, the youngest in a large family, and grew up without any kind of responsibilities. She’s always misplacing and losing things — watches, cameras, jewelry, etc. Her mail goes unopened and her bills get paid late even though she has plenty of money. Maddy thinks I’m “controlling” because I get frustrated when we have to be somewhere at a specified time and she’s always late. I think she’s selfish … ]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 00:50:32 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5715440-423/woman-who-wont-keep-track-of-time-isnt-worth-mans-future.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5715440-423/woman-who-wont-keep-track-of-time-isnt-worth-mans-future.html <![CDATA[ Openly gay man isn’t happy being his partner’s secret ]]>

Dear Abby: I am a 25-year-old gay man who has been in a relationship for two years with a guy who just turned 30. My problem is he has not yet told his family about me. He has been around my family, and they view him as part of the family. I want the same with his parents and sibling. I think he should have told them by now. Is it OK to give him an ultimatum to either tell his family or I’ll leave? I don’t want to be a secret anymore, and I don’t know how to handle … ]]> Mon, 25 Apr 2011 10:01:07 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/4587553-423/openly-gay-man-isnt-happy-being-his-partners-secret.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/4587553-423/openly-gay-man-isnt-happy-being-his-partners-secret.html <![CDATA[ Breadwinner is out of patience with her dysfunctional family ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I’m running out of energy to compassionately relate with all the addicts and mentally ill people in my family. My mother is an alcoholic. My aunt is bipolar and schizophrenic. She is addicted to and abusing prescription painkillers and anti-anxiety medicines. My husband is an alcoholic in denial who lies about his alcohol consumption, and my stepmother is mentally abusive and, I strongly suspect, also bipolar. These people are all retired, while I work a physically and mentally demanding full-time job. I’m usually the one who is blamed when things don’t go right. Mother asked me to remove … ]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2011 00:49:55 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5583961-423/breadwinner-is-out-of-patience-with-her-dysfunctional-family.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5583961-423/breadwinner-is-out-of-patience-with-her-dysfunctional-family.html <![CDATA[ Dear Abby: Teacher surprised to learn of former student’s attraction ]]> Lead story image

Dear Abby: I am a teacher with a dilemma. I have taught for 10 years and connected with thousands of former students. ]]> Tue, 02 Aug 2011 00:15:37 -0500 http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5646206-423/dear-abby-teacher-surprised-to-learn-of-former-students-attraction.html http://couriernews.suntimes.com/lifestyles/abby/5646206-423/dear-abby-teacher-surprised-to-learn-of-former-students-attraction.html